By: Ransi Samarasinghe
Just like all girls have a general idea of what makes a great boyfriend, guys have a general idea of what makes a great girlfriend. Even though no one can be perfect, it’s nice to be successful in relationships.
1. Be confident in who you are
There are several definitions about to be confident, such as; sure of you, having no uncertainty about one’s own abilities, correctness, success, etc. This simply shows that the importance of being confident in yourself, it’s not only one best quality, it contents the most of the best qualities together. In the beginning of a relationship each one hesitates to reveal who you really are, that’s what makes your bond transitory. Girl, always be yourself, that’s what make you perfect, smart and comfortable to be with. Even it’s really comfortable to be with someone who knows about all your flaws and mistakes. If you are comfortable with speaking mind, then he’ll be comfortable with speaking his mind, too. Basically don’t create a fake you to impress him, be real you, it will make him fall in love with you over and over again. Don’t be afraid to embarrass yourself in front of yourself; men like women are free spirited, confident and unafraid to getting loose. Don’t be afraid to make your desires, needs, and opinions known, even when they make conflict with his.
2. Give him something to respect
This is from a biography interview with Reba McEntire, the secret of her successful relationship with his husband as she explained that love while important had little to do with success in her relationship but respect for each other had been and still was essential. Respect each other creates a successful and healthy relationship; it’s a combination of appreciation, admiration and recognition of a person being worth something.
“It’s man’s job to respect woman, but it’s woman’s job to give him something to RESPECT” –unknown-
When you love and respect yourself, you treat him with respect and you receive the same respect in return. Love is wonderful but respect is the glue that can grown lasting, connected and deeply intimate relationship. Girl, it’s your good character what makes you precious and unique, also it captures his respect towards you. Your kindness, affection, patience, strength, activeness, compassion, frugality are some qualities that build a queen inside you. Always be truthful, even in the situations where even a small lie could get you out of lots of troubles, don’t do it. He will respect you and appreciate you for it; trust is the key of a perfect relationship.
3. Love and adore him as much as you can
“You can’t love someone else if you don’t love yourself” –Buddha-
First of all girl, you should love yourself and it will automatically create a beloved girlfriend. Love is unconditional feeling, if you are lucky enough to feel that way about your boyfriend, it’s really important to show him. He loves to hear that you love him at random times and mean it; it will make him doubtless about your love. Remember your love will cheer him up when he’s down, tired and mostly when he is disappointed. Show him how much you love him whenever you can, give him sincere compliments, little gifts, attention, and bake or make things for him. Smiling is important, if you are always frowning that might make him think you are uncomfortable with where you are now. Show affection in public, most of men appreciate it when a woman is confident enough to express her love in public. And also it’s your duty to be fully present during love making, let him know when he is doing something right. All these things prove him that you truly love him and it will make him fall in love with you all over again.
4. Be understanding, it’s much deeper than knowledge
There are many people knows him, but very few who understand him, and you should be one of them. He always wishes that you could understand him more than anyone. It’s not that easy to understand a person without any doubt but it’s possible to be a good listener and a caretaker of his needs. You always shouldn’t have to accept everything he does; sometimes you have to point out his weaknesses, his faults and his bad behavior. This is one of the most important qualities that a girl should have in a relationship. Remember what he likes to do and what he likes to talk about, basically you don’t have to act like you love his hobbies, but at least try to understand why he is such a fan. Problems, where relationships stuck, in that both of you assume responsibilities for fixing things rather than expecting him to fix things. To compromise well, you have to be able to calmly and rationally discuss a situation while understanding his perspective. Be supportive, and let him know that you could handle any kind of problem with him. He will probably love the way you understand him. Many relationships struggle nowadays by pure lack of communication, understanding, and realism. Always you have an ability to build a perfect relationship through your qualities.